The Temple Priestess

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2010-10-30T11:50:00.000-07:00

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Sex and Money

2010-06-15T17:07:00.001-07:00

The second chakra is traditionally associated with your sexual force and your creative energy. Even Napoleon Hill’s famous book ‘Think and Grow Rich’ briefly discussed the fact that the sex drive was one outlet of our basic creative drive. He suggested transmuting the sexual urge at times into creative work projects, and using that creative force to get the projects completed. In a way, sex and money are the same thing. They are flip sides of the same coin. If you have any ‘hang-ups’ about making money, try this some time: Pretend money is like a beautiful red poppy. This poppy is special though –it is vanilla-scented. Imagine you are in a field of vanilla-scented red poppies. Go pick a poppy of your choosing….Stay with the flower and take it in. Rest in this image for a while.

(stay tuned –to be continued in future posts)

Sexy Meditation

2010-06-15T17:04:00.000-07:00

Meditation is simple really. It’s a good skill to learn but people tend to think you have to practice for years. If you boil it down, it simply involves reaching a state of focused awareness. You can practice focusing your awareness on an object, such as gazing at a candle flicker, or you can focus your awareness on a sound, by repeating a sound or word, ‘om’ or ‘peace’ are examples. Even simpler, you can focus on the movement of your breath. Just mentally count to six as you breathe in, and mentally count to six as you exhale. (If six feels too long for you, start with four.) Feel your breath inhabit your body. Have a regular time you practice this every day, say 5 minutes and build from there, first thing in the morning is good or right before going to bed. The more you meditate and learn to focus your awareness on your breath as it travels through your body, the more you can use this skill to enhance your lovemaking and pleasure. Breath awareness builds chi energy in the area you focus on. As you learn to consciously manipulate the chi moving through your body, you can also learn to more sexual energy through your body. Sexual energy is just one form of life force energy. It doesn’t have to be felt only in the genitals. It is amazingly pleasurable when you move the sexual energy into your chest and ‘pulse’ it back and forth between your chest and your lover’s chest. In order to feel this energy more strongly, it helps to learn how to build your sexual energy up, so that you can have some in the genitals and some in the chest. (Please note though, this is a very bonding technique. This means that you will produce a strong energy cord of love between you and your partner. Do not do this exercise if you are just trying to 'pick-someone-up' for a short-term thing.) To learn this in more detail, I’ll post some links to more resources and also, I’ll be hosting tele-workshops to teach these techniques, stay-tuned.

Casual Sex?

2010-06-11T11:49:00.000-07:00

I’ve been interviewed by Cosmo magazine several times and some common themes come up. One theme involves how men and women communicate about relationships and sex. Women tend to ask, ‘when will he call me?’, which points to an underlying question of how important the relationship is to either party. This issue can lead to the whole casual sex versus committed sex issue. I’ve gone back and forth on this issue of casual sex or ‘friendship sex’ and my feeling is this, Sex is sacred. I don’t have anything against having sex for fun and I know people who have sex as kind of a sport. But, I think in our rush as a society to say we are ‘liberated’, we make everything ordinary, not-important, not sacred. It stems from a backlash to puritanical beliefs. Over the eons, groups tended to use religion and associated beliefs about sex as a control mechanism. Many religious groups instilled a fear of sex and the body desires into their followers. If people are told sex is dangerous/bad/sinful and can only be for procreation or under restricted circumstances, what happens? People tend to repress their sex drive and all that repressed juicy energy can be used to others’ advantage as a control mechanism. That repressed energy can be diverted into utilitarian procreation, as was needed when we were agrarian and needed more workers for the farm or factory. Or, more recently, that repressed energy can be funneled into buying endless cars, homes, stuff to fill the emptiness or quell the anxiety temporarily. So, the pendulum swung from puritan to ‘oh sex- that’s no big deal’. Let’s find something more balanced. We have so many ordinary, no-big-deal things in life, I think we yearn for something special, something sacred. That doesn’t have to mean ‘I’ll save myself til Prince Charming comes’. It does mean that you need to decide in your own unique way, how you’ll define the specialness of sexual union. And I’ll address the ‘Cosmo issue’ of ‘will he call me?’ and ‘what should I do?’

If you have sex with someone, that is a sacred union. It deserves the honor of a call, especially at the beginning. I’ll speak more about this in future issues. I also think a lover is different from a friend. We just haven’t developed good descriptive terms as a society to address the specialness of sexual union. What is needed more and more, is for men and women to open up the lines of communication and honor the specialness of the masculine and feminine polarity. We'll also talk more about this in our 'healing interactive tele-calls'.

Sexy Aging, AKA Advice to use before it’s too late

2010-06-11T11:06:00.000-07:00

Passion helps you look younger. I’ve talked to many older women about this. Their consensus is this: Women who have something they are passionate about look younger and tend to stay fit. Research has shown this as well. Having something that stirs passion in you, whether it’s a partner or a favorite cause, causes your endorphins to flow. You feel happier and want to take better care of your body. Passion also reves up your chi and you feel more energized. The women I interviewed had some great advice to pass onto us younger gals, so that we can have a passionate sex life into our 70s and beyond.

• If you are with a long term partner, avoid getting into a pattern of stagnation. You can do this by setting aside some sacred time together, preferable one day a week. If this seems too much, start with half a day. A key point here is that sexuality needs a place to express itself that is special, outside of the mundane, a place that is sacred. The definition of sacred is ‘worthy of respect or dedication’. Sacred is the opposite of mundane. The definition of mundane is ‘found in the ordinary course of events’. If sex goes into the sphere of the mundane, it becomes ordinary. Ordinary is bland. Sacred sexuality is just that, an act worthy of respect and dedication. It deserves time set aside with no cell phones, and no outside distractions. This helps keep sex sexy.

• Sleep nude often. Lose the ugly pajamas.

• Be fascinated with the male anatomy. Worship it as the sacred lingam.

• Take naps together and snuggle.

• Shower together. Water is sexy. Treat the shower as a sexy sacred ceremony. Wash each other’s hair. Bathe each other.

• Just as you take special time with your partner, also spend time apart. See other friends and develop outside interests. This keeps you from ‘merging’ into a fused oneness that has no polarity. Remember, polarity is sexy. It’s what keeps your batteries charges. Enjoy each other’s differences.

• Give and receive a massage- it’s sexy and it helps reduce any achiness.

• Use sex toys - this is especially important if your partner had erectile dysfunction or prostate issues. I’ll be reviewing various sex toys in upcoming issues.

• Plan time to unwind and have fun. One of my interviewees, Pat, 71, said it’s vital to have ‘silly’ time to just laugh and have fun. She and her boyfriend play airhockey with the drink coasters when they go out to dinner.

• Tend a passion for something that makes you excited to wake up in the morning. What do you look forward to? What small thing do you do for the world that makes the world a better place? It can be volunteering for a worthy cause or choosing to consciously send love to a few people by smiling at them as you walk by.

• Some people are starting a new trend of ‘Single during the week, and married during the weekend’. I’ll talk more about what this means in a future issue.

Sexy Moms

2010-06-08T16:26:00.000-07:00

I know there are the occasional jokes about MILFs, but I noticed on a subconscious level, women tend to give up their sexuality when they have kids. They don’t do it consciously, and if you ask them about it, they’d give you the ‘logical’ answer that ‘of course I’m still a sexual being’. I don’t think they buy it on a subconscious level. A lot of women go through a period of post-partum blues or angsty-anxiety. I believe this arises partly from the collective unconscious, where we tap into archetypes of what we’re allowed to be. Once you’re a mom, the range of ‘approved’ archetypes is restricted. Women feel that on a primal, body level. It shows in how they carry themselves, in that angst many moms feels before they find a safe place to be a mother. How to transcend that? It really starts with getting in touch with your body. Allowing yourself, as a mom to feel pleasure, and no, don’t always wait til everyone else is taken care of and you have two measly minutes before you fall into bed exhausted. Let yourself be selfish sometimes. A bit of selfishness is good, if you have no–self, you have no boundaries and people will unwittingly suck the life out of your batteries. Develop your own style as a sexy mom-add a new archetype to the collective unconscious. Change can happen with one person. If you need more healing on this issue, come join us at the next healing tele-party.

Eyeball Sex

2010-06-08T16:15:00.000-07:00

Eyeball sex©

What is eyeball sex you may wonder? I’d read in various tantric books about brain orgasms and I could never figure out how to get to that state. It sounded fun – who wouldn’t like having orgasmic waves of pleasure running through your head-but it seemed like a mysterious state only well-trained yogis could get to after years of training. So, I let the books gather dust on my shelf. After a year or two, I decided to take the plunge and take an in-person tantra class. I discovered it’s really not that difficult for a ‘regular’ person to have an ecstatic experience. The class was about six hours and for those modest types, it was done fully clothed. I don’t think you necessarily need to spend that much time to get into the ecstatic state but it helps to spend time building up to it. This is what I did in a nutshell: We worked through the seven ‘basic’ chakras (I say basic because some philosophies say there are more than seven. That’s a complicated discussion and my point here is to keep it simple.) First, we did some dyad work, working in pairs. Dyad work involves talking through what your ideas are on questions such as ‘what is love?’, ‘what was your most memorable sexual experience?’. This process cleared some space for us to leave ‘the head’ and get in touch with the body. We’re trained in our culture to endlessly talk through and analyze everything, so people need a bit of time to fulfill the chattering habit before we focus on the body. We brought our attention to the first chakra at the perineum and did P.C. muscle contractions to start the kundalini moving up the spine. Then, we focused our awareness on our most memorable sexual experience, did some flirting, and noticed the energy moving up into the second chakra. The process simply involves ‘feeling’ the sexual energy move up the body. To move the energy more fully through the body and get it pumping, we did some simple yoga postures, specifically ‘cat-cow’, which involves flexing the spine up and down. Flexing the pelvis back and forth while standing also gets the energy flowing. As the energy moved past the second and third chakra, we said loving affirmations to one another to notice the heart chakra (fourth) opening and the energy flowing into the heart. Then, some tribal drumming music helped to get in a trance state as we chanted ‘ahhh’ to open up the throat (fifth) chakra. We finished with eye gazing where we focused our gaze softly on a partner, I was told that gazing at my partner with my focus on the left eye and to imagine the energy flowing out past the third eye (sixth chakra) and out the top of the head (seventh chakra). We gazed and continued with the tribal drumming music and the soft ‘ahhhs’. At that moment, I felt a surge of tingly sexual energy shoot through my head, I felt my consciousness bounce out of the top of my head, I felt my body swoon, my partner caught me so that I didn’t fall over and then my awareness came back into my body. It was really fun and worth the time to reach that state. I recommend you try it at least once in your life. It should be in the top 10 of the ‘1000 things to do before you die’ list.

Are cavemen sexy?

2010-06-08T15:45:00.000-07:00

Are cavemen sexy?

I took an informal poll of several friends recently on what they like about men but don’t dare say out loud. One of the key themes was the fact that women like a bit of ‘caveman’ during sex. Well, honestly, a lot of caveman. Several women actually said, ‘I want a caveman to grab me by the hair, drag me back to the cave and fuck me at the soul level.’ Really? Yes. Our culture has sanitized relations between men and women, equality becoming equated with ‘sameness’, bland sameness. We as a collective still have a difficult time seeing the beauty in diversity, having an adolescent need to say this is ‘better-than’ or this is ‘worse-than’. So, with that tendency, a safety value is created where we just make everyone neutered, which avoids any messy diversity and falling into the better-than worse-than game. But it’s sooo boring. The polarity between masculine and feminine energy is not allowed, so we only have a narrow range of energy to flow in. What happens when you don’t allow any polarity? The battery loses its power, its charge. It goes flat. This is an energy space of boredom, low libido, and a step-ford wife type of existence where everything is sanitized.

What makes sex exciting is its primal nature. It is not clean, not ‘nice’ even. And, I don’t mean that in a mental way that sex is dirty/bad, but that it activates a part of us that was before ‘civilization’, before ‘rules’ and ‘roles’, before everything had to be so neatly organized like a Wal-mart shelf. Our outer world reflects our inner world. With cookie-cutter housing developments and all the stores at the mall becoming the same, whether you’re in Peoria or Paris, sameness is boring. Be yourself. Be unique. Let masculine be different than feminine, and let it be ok. Yes, it scares us, if we are not ‘the same’, will disrespect set in? Is one energy better than the other? We have both polarities in us. We choose to express one. Play with it. Let it be a game. The Divine expresses all choices, all polarities. It is Wholeness. Everything else is illusion. Enjoy the game of masculine-feminine while you are embodied.

Life is sexy

2010-01-05T15:58:00.000-08:00

Hello Dear Readers:
We had a wonderful podcast guest last month for our "The Temple Priestess Talks..." series.

The guest host was Jean Frazier, an Author, Registered Nurse, and Intuitive Energy Healer. She has worked as a childbirth educator, workshop presenter, Doula and Registered Nurse. She is also experienced in Healing Touch and distance healing. Jean recently published an eBook entitled: The iQuickie ... Because Life Is Sexy. This podcast will be posted here any day now. You will find out what women REALLY think about sexuality. Jean interviewed a diversity of women from 18-76, including swinger, polyamorist, loveless, bisexual, virginal, transgender, and able to orgasm with just a kiss! Unlock YOUR story through their insightfully sexy stories. See more at http://orgasmictruth.com

Please email your questions to: info@thetempleprietess.com.

Listeners' Comments on the shows: This is Haley from your first podcast. I just wanted to thank you sincerely for all the advice you shared with me and all your other listeners... this really gave me the power and strength to not make any more excuses for myself and really conquer this problem. I especially liked the idea of appreciating who we are and what we have now, and what we can look forward to in the future; that the past has already been swept down the river, and it is no good to worry over. I also really appreciated your thoughts on his past and his decision making. You gave me a clear view that he was just tying to live his life day to day, and couldn't have known what lay ahead, and he was just doing the best he knew how at the time, and I can fully respect and understand that. He really is a wonderful man, and deserves a woman who loves him completely without hesitation or worry. I now feel like I have the tools to conquer those doubts and fears I have held onto for so long, and give him the appreciation he deserves. I look forward to your future podcasts and wish you success.

thanks!

New Podcasts from The Temple Priestess: Psychic Chicks Talk Sex and Romance

2009-10-06T15:12:00.000-07:00

Hello dear readers, I am mostly going to be doing podcasts in lieu of blogs for the time being. I will post the new audio link each month. Check here for August and September's podcasts:

http://www.thetemplepriestess.com/podcasts.php

oh Heartbreak....

2009-06-03T15:16:00.000-07:00

I wonder what you, dear readers, out there do to cure heartbreak?

Heartbreak can feel like devastation. Writing and journaling are good ways to turn something sad into a creative outlet and maybe through the process, I can help someone heal from this horrible thing called heartbreak. You know the feeling...it feels like a deep hole in your heart, a grief...a loss. Even so heavy a grief that it's hard to sleep or concentrate. I asked Spirit to give me more ideas on how to heal heartbreak.

One technique I love is derived from TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique), I feel called by Spirit to share an abbreviated version of it with you, so you can use it for your own times of heartbreak:

TAT uses acupressure techniques to clear distressing emotions and blocks. Tapas Fleming, the creator of this tool, says " I don't belieive TAT itself does the healing... I believe it is Divine Love or the natural energy of life that does the healing". (Also see: www.tatlife.com for more info on TAT.)

First: Affirm silently to yourself that you are allowing this problem to be healed in all parts of your body-mind-spirit: Basically, giving yourself permission to be kind to yourself, in other words.

Then touch the TAT acu-points by taking one hand and lightly touching the tip of the thumb to the inner corner of the bridge of the nose and the ring (fourth) finger to the other side of the bridge of the nose. Place the middle finger to the middle of the forehead (third eye point). Take your other hand and place it on the back of the head behind the eyes, cradling the base of your skull.

While holding these points for a few minutes, think of the problem (i.e. heartbreak, grief) that is troubling you. Notice what comes up?

Then, while still holding the points, focus your attention on asking your subconscious mind and the universe to heal and clear all aspects of this problem from your life. Again, notice what arises? Hold the points for a few minutes until you feel a shift in the energy. You may need to do this process several times or for several days, as layers of related issues arise. The points are very calming and help facilitate the movement of your life energy throughout your body.
Blessings

Flirting for Fun

2009-05-13T22:10:00.000-07:00

Flirting is good for you, it causes your sexual energy (kundalini) to run. This energy is very healing. Oftentimes, we shut this energy down by disrespecting the wonder of our bodies, by sitting around and watching too much TV, by getting stuck in a rut. In this blog, I love giving people quick ideas to apply in their daily life to enhance their sexuality and their body-joy. Go out and flirt with at least one person today. It doesn't have to 'lead' to anything, just do it for the sheer pleasure and excitement of it. Think of the French, they have flirting down to a science, that's part of their joie de vivre. It enhances all their creative endeavors. Let me know how your adventures go. Bon Appetit!

Contemplate

2008-12-31T17:23:00.000-08:00

Just by your very existence, you are part of the divine order of the Universe.

fun idea

2008-12-31T17:19:00.000-08:00

In a recent review article in the Dec. 3 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, sexually unsatisfied women who practiced the Eastern techniques of mindfulness and yoga reported improvements in levels of arousal and desire, as well as better orgasms. In addition, yoga has been found to effectively treat premature ejaculation in men.
Eastern practices have been touted as sexually beneficial for years — as the article states, the techniques have "their origin in the Kama Sutra". Sex is good for you!

2008-08-10T21:38:00.000-07:00

2008-07-30T22:11:00.000-07:00

These new musings are in the process of being made into a book, I'll post new snippets every few weeks: enjoy! I'd love to hear your comments too:

“…it’s like a dream, no end and no beginning…”
-Madonna, AD 1990
A Spy in Suburbia:
The Temple Priestess Chronicles: Story 1:
Part I
AD 2004
I’m walking down a corridor with roughly hewn columns and fountains surrounding the entrance to this particular corridor. I am wearing a thin, white gauzy-type material that drapes along my waist, with a belt of beautiful golden coins. I notice their sing-songy clinking as I walk along. I have long, dark, wavy hair covering my torso. I enter a small bed-chamber that is beautifully adorned with fresh flowers along the pillows resting on a raised mat… A male server approaches me…urgency in his voice…I toss, gasping, what’s going on…some riders from the North attacking…

I awake with a start. Anxious from the clarity of this nightmare, I try to throw it off and go back to sleep.

Later that week, I start having spontaneous waking memories of a past life as this temple priestess. Well, primarily when I am awake and a few while I am dreaming at night. It runs like a movie in my head at various times throughout the day. The first few weeks, it comes in small snippets, a scene here and there. Some days, I’d see it as an observer, watching it as from a distance, and some days, I’d be the head temple priestess experiencing all the emotions as if it was occurring yesterday. These initial memories were fascinating and uplifting; transporting me to a culture that was serene, community-oriented and peace-loving. I am so intrigued by the details in these memories that I begin a diary, writing down the snippets of memories and insights into that culture as they arose....

Musings

2008-07-22T16:39:00.000-07:00

When you think of adoring another person as a sexual being, what feelings arise?
I was talking to friends the other day, and they wondered if enjoying looking at a woman's breasts was somehow unspiritual (even if done in a discreet, respectful way). Who defines what is spiritual? Who made our bodies? The human body is a beautifully designed/evolved creation., and it is lovely to look at. Spirituality is in the eye and mind of the beholder, and sexuality is a wonderful gift from the Sacred One, from God-Goddess. Be in gratitude today for all the loveliness you see, whether it is a beautiful breast or a colorful flower. It is all good...

Musings

2008-07-22T16:36:00.001-07:00

What do you feel when you say, “I enjoy my body, it is a beautiful, Divine creation.” Do you feel reticent to say that? Why? You are Divine light put into form. Contemplate that today and find ways to be kinder and more loving to yourself and your body.