Sexy Aging, AKA Advice to use before it’s too late

Passion helps you look younger. I’ve talked to many older women about this. Their consensus is this: Women who have something they are passionate about look younger and tend to stay fit. Research has shown this as well. Having something that stirs passion in you, whether it’s a partner or a favorite cause, causes your endorphins to flow. You feel happier and want to take better care of your body. Passion also reves up your chi and you feel more energized. The women I interviewed had some great advice to pass onto us younger gals, so that we can have a passionate sex life into our 70s and beyond.


• If you are with a long term partner, avoid getting into a pattern of stagnation. You can do this by setting aside some sacred time together, preferable one day a week. If this seems too much, start with half a day. A key point here is that sexuality needs a place to express itself that is special, outside of the mundane, a place that is sacred. The definition of sacred is ‘worthy of respect or dedication’. Sacred is the opposite of mundane. The definition of mundane is ‘found in the ordinary course of events’. If sex goes into the sphere of the mundane, it becomes ordinary. Ordinary is bland. Sacred sexuality is just that, an act worthy of respect and dedication. It deserves time set aside with no cell phones, and no outside distractions. This helps keep sex sexy.


• Sleep nude often. Lose the ugly pajamas.


• Be fascinated with the male anatomy. Worship it as the sacred lingam.


• Take naps together and snuggle.


• Shower together. Water is sexy. Treat the shower as a sexy sacred ceremony. Wash each other’s hair. Bathe each other.


• Just as you take special time with your partner, also spend time apart. See other friends and develop outside interests. This keeps you from ‘merging’ into a fused oneness that has no polarity. Remember, polarity is sexy. It’s what keeps your batteries charges. Enjoy each other’s differences.


• Give and receive a massage- it’s sexy and it helps reduce any achiness.


• Use sex toys - this is especially important if your partner had erectile dysfunction or prostate issues. I’ll be reviewing various sex toys in upcoming issues.


• Plan time to unwind and have fun. One of my interviewees, Pat, 71, said it’s vital to have ‘silly’ time to just laugh and have fun. She and her boyfriend play airhockey with the drink coasters when they go out to dinner.


• Tend a passion for something that makes you excited to wake up in the morning. What do you look forward to? What small thing do you do for the world that makes the world a better place? It can be volunteering for a worthy cause or choosing to consciously send love to a few people by smiling at them as you walk by.


• Some people are starting a new trend of ‘Single during the week, and married during the weekend’. I’ll talk more about what this means in a future issue.