Are cavemen sexy?

Are cavemen sexy?



I took an informal poll of several friends recently on what they like about men but don’t dare say out loud. One of the key themes was the fact that women like a bit of ‘caveman’ during sex. Well, honestly, a lot of caveman. Several women actually said, ‘I want a caveman to grab me by the hair, drag me back to the cave and fuck me at the soul level.’ Really? Yes. Our culture has sanitized relations between men and women, equality becoming equated with ‘sameness’, bland sameness. We as a collective still have a difficult time seeing the beauty in diversity, having an adolescent need to say this is ‘better-than’ or this is ‘worse-than’. So, with that tendency, a safety value is created where we just make everyone neutered, which avoids any messy diversity and falling into the better-than worse-than game. But it’s sooo boring. The polarity between masculine and feminine energy is not allowed, so we only have a narrow range of energy to flow in. What happens when you don’t allow any polarity? The battery loses its power, its charge. It goes flat. This is an energy space of boredom, low libido, and a step-ford wife type of existence where everything is sanitized.


What makes sex exciting is its primal nature. It is not clean, not ‘nice’ even. And, I don’t mean that in a mental way that sex is dirty/bad, but that it activates a part of us that was before ‘civilization’, before ‘rules’ and ‘roles’, before everything had to be so neatly organized like a Wal-mart shelf. Our outer world reflects our inner world. With cookie-cutter housing developments and all the stores at the mall becoming the same, whether you’re in Peoria or Paris, sameness is boring. Be yourself. Be unique. Let masculine be different than feminine, and let it be ok. Yes, it scares us, if we are not ‘the same’, will disrespect set in? Is one energy better than the other? We have both polarities in us. We choose to express one. Play with it. Let it be a game. The Divine expresses all choices, all polarities. It is Wholeness. Everything else is illusion. Enjoy the game of masculine-feminine while you are embodied.